Couples rarely go into divorce proceedings with all the information they need— as it should be. If you are going through a divorce, there are certain things you need to keep in mind. Regardless of how smooth it may go, divorce is inherently a challenging situation—especially from the perspective of your children..
Therefore, you should avoid certain mistakes to ensure that the divorce concludes as amicably as possible. This article discusses a few of the vital things you should remember as your divorce proceedings progress.
Your Children Are Not Your Allies
Do not wedge a wall between your children and your soon-to-be ex-spouse; they are your children, not allies. Therefore, you want to do your best to explain your separation to your children, and you should do this together. Start by reminding them how much you love them and will continue to work to keep them safe and loved.
Then, let them know they do not have to choose between the two of you; they can love you both. Your children thinking they have to take sides with their parents can be as difficult as the divorce itself. Do not leverage your child for your means, and do not badmouth your ex-spouse in front of your children.
Social Media Is Not Your Confidante
Do not make social media your diary or best friend to whom you vent your frustrations concerning your ex and divorce. Avoid posting about your divorce online, regardless of how seemingly insignificant you think the information is.
If you are overwhelmed and need to vent, go to a trusted party you know will confidently hold the information. One good option is to vent with your therapist; they will not share with anyone, nor will they allow the information to undermine you.
It feels great to offload a burden on social media through the written word, but it gets tricky. The sensitive details about your divorce may be used to undermine your claims, including financial and parenting claims. Besides being unnecessary, putting your business online for everyone to see is not worth the risk.
Meanwhile, whoever you share with, ensure they promise to be discreet as they may still be subpoenaed for information against you. In divorce matters, the best option is to not share with anyone other than your lawyer.
Do Not Waste Time Fighting Over Personal Property
Many couples waste precious time and resources fighting over personal property like a work of art, silverware, and other things. If you fight, first analyze the cost to determine whether it is worth it. You do not want to end up with expensive silverware after expending the same value fighting over it.
Meanwhile, while battling over personal property, you miss out on other assets and opportunities. Do not fight over every piece of furniture, dish, and tool in the shed; look at the bigger picture and let them go.
Do Not Let Your Attorney Make All the Decisions
Your lawyer is indeed in the best position to handle the divorce process. However, that does not mean you should blindly delegate all decisions to your lawyer, hoping they will make the right decisions. Do not sign documents without first reading and comprehending them, not even at your lawyer's word.
Ask questions, work with your lawyer, and ensure you understand what is going on well. We are talking about your future after the divorce, after all.
Conclusion
“Divorce is not a particularly pleasant event, even when couples go into it amicable. And, when children are involved, things become a bit more complicated,” says attorney Galit Moskowitz of Moskowitz Law Group, LLC. Remember these things outlined in this article as your divorce progresses, and you will be fine.
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