Parenting Tips When Your Teenager Uses Instagram
On Monday I had the opportunity to visit the Instagram and Facebook Headquarters in London. I was attending a conference hosted by Instagram and Mumsnet that focussed on protecting our teens in a digital age.
I didn’t really know what to expect but I really did learn a lot about what Instagram have been doing to try and ensure the internet is a safe and kind place for the younger generation who use Instagram.
The theme of the event was #TimeWellSpent and the aim is for those over 13 years of age to be able to spend their time online wisely and safely.
Some of the things I learnt from the event were that:
- We can keep safe and be happy online in the digital world.
- Kids under 13 cannot own an Instagram account
- Instagram does not tolerate bullying or harassment
- Instagram does not allow Nudity, violence or the promotion of self harm.
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Parenting Tips for Teens on Instagram
Although my daughter is not quite at the age of owning her own Instagram account. She will eventually be 13 and will most likely want to own her own Instagram. As a parent there are things I will be able do to help protect and keep my child safe during her Instagram experience.
Parent Conversation
It’s important to talk and discuss Instagram and online safety with my child. This is not just a one off thing but something I can discuss regularly and talk about often so my daughter is comfortable chatting about Instagram and social media with me.
Manage Privacy
Instagram accounts can be set and managed with privacy settings. Controlling the audience, who see’s your child’s account and engages with your child can be very important. You can discuss what your child wishes to share with a large audience versus what they would share with those closer to them. It’s a fine balancing act and something to consider when setting up an account.
Manage Comments
Your child can manage comments on their Instagram feed. At the moment Instagram is able to detect and recognise bullying phrases and certain language and can automatically block comments which are designed to hurt the user.
Whilst this is great, bullying and nasty comments may slip through but there are options to filter certain words, block users and even turn off commenting.
Think About Who You Follow
It’s important for teens and adults to think about who we follow. You don’t have to follow someone forever. You can unfollow someone if you don’t like their content, feel uncomfortable or simply have no more interest in their account.
It’s okay to unfollow someone.
You can also mute accounts, report things that need reporting and once again block anyone you don’t want to see or engage with.
Manage Your Screen Time
Managing screen time is something we could all improve on at times. Instagram have created the option to monitor and check screen time so we can better balance and see how much time we use on Instagram and make an effort to spend our online time well.
Wholesome and Worthy Causes
Instagram can be and will be used for social expression and communication by our teens, however their is much more to using Instagram than simply chatting and sharing photos.
Whilst at Instagram headquarters I had the opportunity to meet some fantastic teenagers and young people using Instagram as a platform for good.
Teens can share their experiences, art, promote messages, share ideas and much more. I met a fantastic young woman who like me shares her health journey on Instagram and it was great to hear how sharing illness online can help someone to feel less isolated. I totally get that. It’s what I’ve been doing for the past 4 years.
At the Instagram event I met a wonderful young woman Ailbhe from Dublin who has an Instagram account called Izzy Wheels. This is a fantastic account by Izzy & Ailbhe and shares wheelchair wheel covers which are modelled on Instagram. I think it’s brilliant and being a part time wheelchair user myself, I was really intrigued.
There were young women who promote beauty, body positivity and self love. Being real and not fake is such an important message. There are far too many edited and “perfect” looking bodies in magazines and online but Instagram can allow us to be more authentic, especially as we use Instagram stories.
Conclusion
I had a fantastic time. I was inspired to continue on with my Instagram Journey. I recently hit ten thousand followers which is fabulous and my social media focus in 2019 will be growing and developing my Instagram account.
I have ideas and things I want to share about my life, our style and about living with chronic illness. I have some time to think about Instagram and the role it will play in my daughter’s life as she becomes a teenager.
I have confidence that dialogue is being opened and things are being put in place to help create a safe and happy environment for the younger generation online. I’d like to see how this is covered in schools in the future as it’s a key part of our children’s lives.
Social media is not perfect and there will always be new developments and more applications and tools.
We live in a digital age and the best thing we can do as parents, rather than prevent and ban our kids from using social media, is to regularly discuss social media and build a strong relationship with our child to enable us to help them have a safe and enriching experience on social media and Instagram.
Angela
Mumsnet covered my travel costs to attend the event. I am choosing to write and share this post as I feel it is an important topic to discuss.
I love this. Instagram is a wonderful platform for sharing experiences, but it needs to be approached in a safe matter. There’s a lot of questionable stuff out there on any platform.
It’s so important to stay on top of our kids’ social media use on all platforms. It can be a wonderful thing, but it can also be fraught with pitfalls.
Great post! While we haven’t crossed this bridge, I’m sure it’s coming. It’s great that Instagram doesn’t allow kids under 13 to have an account.
As a parent of teens, and being on social media exclusively, I know all too well the dangers that lurk on the ‘net. These tips will help us do our best to keep track of what our kids do online.
I agree that we should have regular and open conversation with teenages about Instagram and social media, so not only they are confortable in taking about it, they can also understand how to use Instagram wisely. It is a great platform to share our stories and connect with others, but it can also make people obssessed with the platform.
Our 2 older kids have limited online time. We monitor as much as humanly possible. This is excellent advice!
My daughter is 15 and only uses it occasionally. Thankfully, she’s pretty good about who she follows and has brought several questionable accounts to my attention. It’s good to have an open line of communication on what’s acceptable on any social media platform and what is not.
Instagram and social media in general xan be both great and dangerous for a teenager (and an adult). I have always loved the I look but sometomes I do find myself scrolling down the popular page feeling jealous of other people’s looks and lifestyle. That’s a great post!!
It is definitely good to monitor your teenagers social media usage. Instagram can definitely can be a daunting website for teenagers. I don’t think I would want my daughter on it until she is much older.
I understand where you’re coming from. I felt like that but knowing there are methods in place to keep teens safe I am much more confident now.
Amazing post! Very helpful!! Thanks for sharing your experience.
My son’s teacher started an account for his classroom. I do let him use my account to access it and talk to his friends, but I monitor it every step of the way. 🙂
Our older kids are fully engaged on Instagram. It really is so important for them to understand and be careful with what is out there