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October 5, 2016 · 16 Comments

Love and Bonding with your Baby

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Love and Bonding with your Baby

One of the most basic human needs is to love and be loved. Babies in particular need lots of love to grow and develop to their full potential. Love is the most essential ingredient for successful bonding with your baby.

Bonding begins before birth. As an expectant parent having a child is an exciting experience. During my pregnancies I know I spend time thinking about my soon to be born child. I also have dreams about my child and dreams and hopes for my child. I prepare clothes and baby necessities for her birth. All of these actions help me to bond with my unborn child. To develop love, an unbreakable bond between my child and myself.

On a physiological level we know that during pregnancy important hormones are produced which enhance bonding with your baby. Oxytocin is production increases during the later part of pregnancy. Not only does this prepare the body for labour, it also primes you to love and bond with your baby.

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  • Skin Contact With Babies
  • Love And Bonding
  • Carrying Your Baby
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Skin Contact With Babies

A growing body of evidence has showed the importance of babies’ skin  being in contact with their mothers’ skin immediately after birth. Babies who experience ‘skin to skin’ have more stable temperatures, heart rates, breathing rates, blood sugars and less crying. It is not only beneficial for baby to feel loved but also for mothers.

Mothers who have immediate skin-to-skin during the golden hour (the first hour after birth) are sensitive to their baby’s needs, breast feed they baby longer and have more confidence in caring for their baby. Each of these help a mother bond to her baby – for her to give love to her baby.

Love And Bonding

A Lack of love not only affects baby’s emotional health negatively but also baby’s physical health. Studies in orphans done in Romania in the 1980s showed significantly higher levels of cortisol in babies remaining in orphanage at age 8 months compared with those adopted at age 4 months. Cortisol is the stress hormone and higher levels indicate the lack of love and care. This is a huge stress to a baby’s body.

Love is essential for babies to bond to their mother and then later to father and siblings and extended family members. Bonding as a baby is essential for developing successful relationships in later life.

One study showed that babies who experienced time in an orphanage had lower levels of oxytocin and vasopressin, both essential for appropriate bonding, than children raised in a family.

A fantastic way to bon with your baby is to breast feed, however if this is not an option you can still bind as you feed your child formula. You may want to read the following similac vs enfamil article for advice on good formula for infants.

Carrying Your Baby

Carrying baby is likewise beneficial for babies to bond to their mother. The natural habitat for a newborn is close to mother. Close to her body – warm and snuggly. Close to her voice and soothing words.

Close to her heartbeat – a familiar connection. Close and secure and warm and loved. Baby is bonding to you and you are bonding to your baby.

Co-sleeping with baby has many benefits for mother and baby. Feeding times are shorter and baby settles quicker which means more sleep for baby and mama and potentially everyone else in the house.

It also means a more settled baby because her needs are taken care of sooner. It is another way that baby can remain in her natural habitat – which is close to mum, not in a sterile, lonely, empty cot.

These benefits are only conferred however when mum or her partner have not been under the influence of alcohol or drugs or cigarette smoke.

These all lower your sensitivity to baby’s needs and expose her to toxins – both of which compromise your ability to bond and also increase her risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).

Top Tips for Loving and Bonding with your Baby

  1. Write down your hopes and dreams for your unborn child in your journal or a letter to be given to them later in life. As you think about your child’s potential you are developing mental and emotional bonds with your baby.
  2. Have time to meditate each day during your pregnancy and in the days that follow birth to think about the wonderful baby that God has blessed your life with.
  3. The first hour of a baby’s life is golden. This is once-in-a-lifetime experience. You get a sacred time to hold your baby close against your skin and she is able to feel safe, secure, warm and loved.
  4. Sing to your baby. Talk to your baby. She recognises your voice from before birth. It helps her bond to you.
  5. Carry your baby in a wrap close to your body.
  6. Sleep with your baby this increases your responsiveness to baby and helps them feel loved.
  7. Never sleep with baby though if you or your partner is not smoking, using drugs or smoking.

Enjoy your newborn baby. It is such a sacred time of life and can never be experienced again with that child.

Dr Brunt

References

Gunner M, Morison S, Chisholm K, et al. Salivary Cortisol Levels in adopted children from Romanian Orphanages. Dev Psychopathol 2001 Summer;13(3):611-28.

Wismer Fries A, Ziegler T, Kurian J et al. Early experience in humans is associated with changes in neuropeptides critical for regulating social behavior. PNAS 102 (47):17237โ€“17240

NHS Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

About Angela Milnes

Angela Milnes is a Qualified Early Years Teacher who has specialised in Preschool and Kindergarten teaching. She has a wealth of experience teaching young children and is passionate about kids crafts and having fun as a family. Angela has also taught cooking skills and loves to share both family recipes and easy instant pot recipes here on The Inspiration Edit. Follow her on Pinterest!

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  1. Random Musings says

    August 28, 2015 at 12:31 am

    Great tips, especially number 1, what a great gift for later on in life ๐Ÿ™‚ #positvelyposted
    Debbie

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    • Angela says

      August 28, 2015 at 11:17 am

      I still remember bonding with my baby after she was born Those were special memories. it sure does affect us later on in life. Angela x

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  2. theloveofacaptain says

    August 28, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    Nice post Angela! I loved bonding with the baby when he use to move in my tummy, especially in the bath when he would be really active. Trevor had first skin on skin with Jack and they have an amazing bond now ๐Ÿ™‚ #PositivelyPosted

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    • Angela says

      August 29, 2015 at 11:11 am

      That’s so great! I remember the skin on skin contact I had with Sylvia and it was really nice. We still are so very close and even last night i hopped into her bed and we fell asleep together! Sometimes we just like a cuddle! (it also helps me when i feel so unwell)- Angela xx

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  3. Midwife and life says

    August 30, 2015 at 2:34 am

    I couldn’t agree more

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    • Deborah Brunt says

      August 30, 2015 at 7:44 pm

      Thanks!!

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  4. A Moment with Franca says

    August 30, 2015 at 8:21 am

    What a lovely post. Bonding is such an important part of being pregnant and then having a newborn. Feeling my babies moving inside me was the most amazing feeling I have ever had. I used to talk to them a lot and put music for them to listen. When they were newborns I used to have them in a co-sleeper for the first 6 months next to me so I could breastfed them during the night. This was the most beautiful bonding I had with my girls.My youngest has just turned 1 and I think soon she will stop breastfeeding but so far I have been so blessed with this amazing experience. Being a mum is really beautiful. Thanks for sharing, xx
    #myfavouritepost

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    • Deborah Brunt says

      August 30, 2015 at 7:43 pm

      I agree… being a mother is beautiful, amazing and sooo so special. Thanks for stopping by.

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  5. Ickle Pickle says

    August 30, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    Lovely post – great tips. Luckily I vinded with all my 4 straight away – I used to talk to them and write to them when I was pregnant ๐Ÿ™‚ thanks for linking up to #myfavouritepost Kaz x

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    • Deborah Brunt says

      August 30, 2015 at 7:41 pm

      Thats Great. And a cool idea to bond while you are pregnant.

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  6. Lisa (Mummascribbles) says

    August 30, 2015 at 10:06 pm

    Ahh you’ve just made me remember back to that moment that Zach was placed in my arms. I have never felt love like it and our bond was instantaneous. He’s turning three in a few weeks and that love is still just as breathtaking! Thanks for sharing this and thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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    • Angela says

      August 30, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      Your most welcome! It’s amazing the bond between mother and baby! angela xx

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  7. Zena's Suitcase says

    September 1, 2015 at 10:00 pm

    These are great tips. It’s so important to just make time to connect with your newborn in the early days, and leave the dishes to someone else ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Angela says

      September 1, 2015 at 10:09 pm

      Thanks Zena! Bonding is so so important as you say and I’ve had several reminders of my time with a newborn this week…it has brought some sweet memories back!

      Angela ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. mumkid says

    September 3, 2020 at 7:49 am

    Great post there! Bonding is usually the sweetest moment of my life. Moms should embrace this especially when the babies are young. That bond cannot be broken even much later. When pregnant, I used to sing for my baby and she would stay calm and listen. sweet memories.

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    • Angela says

      September 8, 2020 at 4:23 am

      Yes bonding is so important during and after pregnancy. Those days with my newborn were precious.

      Reply

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