Travel with family around the world: A Guest Post!
Traveling together as a family is a great way to boost your romantic relationship as well as your bond with your children. But that doesn’t mean it’s always easy to do.
Differences in what to see, long hours spent in a car, train, or plane, and maintaining romance while parenting can all play a role in how successful – or stressful, your trip turns out.
We know that you want your family-travel to be a success. You want to build memories that you can talk about for years to come with your spouse and children, and show them a good time, too.
That’s why we’re looking at 6 tips for traveling as a family and how taking a marriage course before boarding your flight can help.
Pre-trip promise: Let’s not fight!
You’ve chosen your destination, spent months meticulously searching for deals and planning a dream vacation for your family, and now it’s time to go.
Before you pack the family up to head out on the road, sit down with your spouse and make an important promise.
Hold hands, look deep into each other’s eyes and vow, “I promise we will not argue while we are away.”
There is nothing worse than going on a vacation you have put your heart -not to mention your wallet- into, only to have it derailed by a mid-vacation spat.
While you’re away, make it a point not to be short with one another. Communicate openly, look for ways to compromise, and be quick to forgive. This will put a positive spin on your trip. A marriage course can help you keep your vow by teaching you great communication techniques.
Learn to laugh it off
That big trip to Disney your kids have been looking forward to? Looks like your roller coasters will have to wait – they’ve been undone by a whooshing thunderstorm!
Your beachside vacation in the Caribbean? It’s has been dampened by a monsoon.
Your bag got rerouted to the wrong airport, your youngest child caught a cold while you’re away, you forgot to bring your ‘skip the line’ tickets to the Taj Mahal.
When traveling, things don’t always go as planned.
But remember, attitude is everything! The calmer you receive bad news, the less likely it will be to ruin your vacation or upset your children.
Take unexpected news in stride. Maintain a happy, positive attitude and learn to laugh it off. Give it a couple of months and your ‘setback’ will soon become just a hilarious part of your vacation story.
Check your identification before you go
Many countries require children, yes, even babies, to have their passports.
What’s more, some countries require that your passport be valid up to six months after you’ve left the country. This means that even if your passport is valid for the duration of your stay, you will still be turned away at the airport.
Ensure you’ve given your entire family’s identification is up to date before embarking on your family adventure.
Take a marriage course before you leave
This may sound ominous, but we promise it isn’t! Taken from the privacy of your own home and at your own pace, an online marriage course may be just the jumpstart you need before embarking on your family vacation.
A marriage course can teach you and your spouse valuable lessons on communication and compassion, both of which you’ll need plenty of if you’re traveling together. Our class also talks about the value of shared goals and what role culture and tradition will play in your marriage identity.
Marriage courses can help you and your spouse deepen compassion and work together as a team. These are invaluable qualities to have, especially when you are traveling together as a family. Remember not to take your trip so seriously. Learn to laugh, don’t over plan your days, and make time to enjoy being a family while you’re away.
Financial planning for vacation
Worrying about money is not something you want to be concerned with while you’re having the time of your life with your family.
It would be wise for husbands and wives to sit down together during the planning-phase of travel and discuss a reasonable budget.
Saving your money for months in advance will help prevent you from racking up credit card debt while on vacation.
Use websites like SkyScanner to track your flights and send you emails with the best deals and take advantage of bed and breakfasts instead of five-star hotels. Many house rentals also have kitchens, which saves you even more money on meals.
Traveling in the off-season is another way to keep your budget low – plus, tourist attractions won’t be as busy!
Make time to be alone
If you are traveling with other family members or your children are older, choose one evening where you and your spouse can be alone together. Spend an evening out on the town, exploring the sights and sipping on wine. Drink in the romance of your destination.
It’s important to build on emotional and physical intimacy while you are away. Whether you’re watching television or spending a romantic night out on the patio of your accommodations, studies show that married couples experience greater happiness and less stress when they are alone together.
This can be a challenge if your children are younger. But, isn’t that what bedtimes are for?
Under no circumstances should you leave your children alone in a strange new place. But after they go to bed, feel free to go out on the patio or spend some “alone” time in the bedroom. This will help you and your spouse stay strong and connected to one another while you’re away.
Marriage courses can help you and your spouse deepen compassion, learn how to communicate, and work together as a team. These are invaluable qualities to have, especially when you are traveling together as a family. Remember not to take your trip so seriously. Learn to laugh, don’t over-plan your days, and make time to enjoy being a family while you’re away.
Sylvia Smith is a writer who likes to write about relationships and how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. She is currently associated with Marriage.com. She is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt its principles in their relationships. By taking purposeful and intentional action, Sylvia feels any relationship or marriage can be transformed and truly enjoyed.