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Shark Messages Are False Messages

The Confusion of Abuse

Welcome to Chapter Nine of

Understanding The different types of Abuse 

Previously:Smothering Hammer Heads, A Form of Abuse

Chapter Nine

Shark Messages Are False Messages

The false beliefs and messages I was being fed whilst receiving abuse affected my psychological wellbeing.

Shark messages can cause victims to lose themselves, their self-worth and self-esteem. Victims of abuse can begin to feel everything is their fault and wrongly believe that they are to blame.

A Victim of Abuse can feel worthless, useless, messed up, crazy and depressed.

False Messages

Shark partners place expectations on their other half as to who they are and what they should be. Sharks feed partners messages off what they should, must or ought to do. Such messages include

Be happy to be ignored

Make my family happy even if you get unwell

Accept that your needs are not important

Do what I say when I say

You have to lose weight to be loved

You must let people live in your home and support them

You have to do’ everything I want.

You have to buy me chicken
You must sponsor family members

You must give us your money.
You must rescue us from our problems.

You must not challenge me

You have to bring me a towel

Don’t put your needs first, do’ what I want

Do my schoolwork

Write my assignment

Pay my bills

Go to work, while I stay home

You must always be busy. You are not allowed time out, to relax or do anything you enjoy.

You must not talk to your friends and family.

The more a victim here’s false and untrue messages, the more they believe. The more they lose their self-worth and the more they lose a sense of who they are.

A victim of abuse will eventually lose all confidence in their own selves and of what they are capable of as unique individuals.

Angela x

Next: Shark Control, Power and Control in Abuse

False Messages