Power Control And Abuse
Every relationship is unhealthy and abusive when one partner seeks to gain power and control over the other. To be frank, when one uses any of the abusive techniques mentioned in this series, it is done in effort of gaining control over a relationship.
Shark Control
Welcome to Chapter Ten of
Understanding The different types of Abuse
Previously: Shark Messages Are False Messages
Chapter Ten
Abuse is wrong! Relationships should be equal and balanced. Both partners should have a say in what happens, how they live, who works, how the money is spent and how things should be. A Controlling Shark however, will seek to take the power from their partner, making all decisions, Isolating, using intimidation, threats and coercion to get their partner to do as they please.
A controlling partner may do any of the following:
Isolate their partner from friends and family
Decide where the couple will live
Tell the partner what to wear
Tell the partner when to bath
Make all the decisions
Control money and finances
Overrule the Partner
Refuse to listen
Agree to things and then do it their own way
Allow the partner to make a decision and then criticise them
Decide when and how things are done controlling television, phone and internet
Non-consensual sexual behaviour
Threatening to break personal items, phone, glasses to get own way
Threatening to hurt partner’s family members
Deliberately driving dangerously
Using body language, ”the glare” and looks to control a partner
Using children as a way to control the partner
At the end of the day an abusive shark is one who seeks to gain power and control over their partner. This is Abuse and no one deserves to be treated this way.
Angela x
