As a teenager, I was sitting in a room listening to a motivational speech about life and happiness. The speaker was a Mother, a woman with four children. She was a successful Early Childhood Manager, owned a home, had a fantastic husband and was really happy.
The speaker then said something which has stuck with me my whole life. She said that she had spent many years focussing on the future, instead of the present. She had said, when I do this and when I do that. The speaker focussed on future achievements such as “when I get my degree”, “when my I finished having kids” and “when we have more money”.
The lesson I was taught on that day was to enjoy the moment. I realised I often had the same mentality, focussing on the future all the time and failing to enjoy the now.
I realised that in order for me to enjoy life and be happy, I needed to enjoy the small moments in life. I didn’t want my life to pass me by thinking, I will be happy when certain accomplishments have been achieved.
I’ve not always stuck to this value or mode of thought and at times it’s been a lot harder to be happy in the moment and easier to look to the future but enjoying the now and looing forward to each day is, in my opinion, the best way to go.
I’m still learning to do this. I am learning to enjoy each day as it comes. I have still had moments where I think about the future and of course planning for the future is important, however its just as important to enjoy the now.
So as I apply this principle into my life it helps me to stay focussed on enjoying each day as it comes. Focussing on the now helps me to have fun with my family rather than thinking we will have fun when the carpets are down. Focussing on the now helps me to buy the items I need rather than thinking I’ll get something when I’ve lost more weight or when it’s a special occasion.
It’s okay to enjoy life and to be happy even when things are not perfect. For me, I will always be unwell and have Adrenal Insufficiency. However, I also have a family and a nice home. I have a purpose. I’m a Mother, a wife, a blogger and a friend. I can enjoy each day the best I can and make the most of my time when I feel well.
I can create my own happiness and not wait for it to come to me. I have created a quote which I wanted it share. This quite nicely sums up my thoughts today. Happiness is not doing what one likes but liking what one does.
I think this is true. I hope this post is useful and that it helps and inspires you to be happy no matter what circumstances you find yourself in.