If you recognise that title, it’s likely you’re trying to place it. Of course, it comes from the hit movie ‘Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,’ perhaps one of the best coming-of-age comedies ever to grace cinema.
While the movies released today are fantastic, visually amazing marvels, it’s easy to think that they don’t quite have the soul of those released in the 80’s and 90’s.
However, we’re not here to discuss movie trends or preferences. Instead we’re going to try and delve into the content of the quote itself. “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.”
What does this mean? Well, it’s pretty obvious. Sometimes we can move around life with such energy, planning and thinking of the future that we forget to stay in the present moment, and enjoy that which is in front of us.
Life isn’t made from the massive events that only happen now and then, such as getting a new job, purchasing a new home or car.
While these might be grand and obviously enjoyable in their own way, the real content of your emotional truth will be made when your daughter makes a silly joke when putting on her shoes for school, or when tickling your husband on the sofa despite him doing everything he can to stop that hilarious and soft form of torture.
Being present for the smaller moments isn’t easy to do in a world that seems to try and grab our attention from every single angle day and night. But with our simple guide, you should have more success:
Careful meditation can be a great way to focus your mind, but also to become better at staying present in the everyday. This sounds like some kind of mystical power that you get only if heading to a temple and shaving your head, but that’s not true at all.
Using mindfulness meditation, you will learn how to cultivate consciousness by focusing on your breath. Your monkey mind will think of a million things as you do so, but gently pulling your attention back to your breath, and doing so time and time again for a period of at least 10 minutes, preferably daily, can help you start to build a real sense of concentration that feels natural and doable.
As you continue to do this, you will likely notice your mind settling, feeling a lot more focused and a lot less difficult to manage in most daily situations.
For the most part, it can help you focus more clearly on that which is in front of you, as you start to become untethered from the absolute shocking immediacy of each and every thought and emotion.
This sounds disconnecting, but it’s not at all. You feel and think normally, but you’re simply more able to process that while also focusing on the world around you.
This can feel tremendously relaxing, and also gives you a very real sense of having more time in the day. Now, who doesn’t want that? Luckily, this is yours for the taking, if only you dedicate yourself to the practice.
Scheduling well is important. This doesn’t mean that you should get all of your duties out of the way by 10am each morning so you can do what you want from then on – that would be impossible.
But you can decide to cut out the fat, to be more direct with the daily actions you have to take care of, and to prevent unnecessary chores if possible.
For example, having your prescription medications delivered to you, by learning how you can now repeat your NHS prescriptions online can potentially save you a weekly drive. It might be you use delivery shopping services to prevent heading to the store and battling with the seasonal chaos often found here.
Your schedule can often shift, and what might work one day may not work during another. But if you give yourself enough room, a solid schedule can provide a fantastic backbone to your daily affairs, rather than take you away from that you hope to achieve.
And yes, this will free up time in a range of small areas that help you focus on life, and dedicate yourself fully to each and every task. Sometimes being present for your life doesn’t mean having unlimited free time.
It simply means focusing, with all of your power, on the activity before you.
Ditch Social Media
It might seem like a relatively simply and safe position to take, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Ditch social media.
We’re not talking about deactivating your accounts of course, as you may have many friends you still wish to keep in touch with.
However, if you post all the time, stop doing so. If you browse other people’s feed all the time, stop doing so.
If you find yourself reaching for your phone each and every break you get despite no notification sounds or vibrations demanding your attention, try to stop doing so.
This can be harder than it seems, because most of us have trained ourselves to always have this little device around us no matter what.
However, ditching social media, or at least reducing its use, can help you focus on the actual life you’re leading right now. After all, the real world is much better than anything can give you online.
You don’t have to dominate everything all the time. You don’t have to be the best at everything, or be perfect at attaining your life goals.
You don’t have to feel like you’ve failed in a day despite working hard with your best intention.
You don’t have to force things to happen when sometimes, they can unravel organically in a much better fashion. Sometimes, chilling out and taking a break allows you to see the world around you, allows you to play with your children with real presence, or helps you enjoy that meal you have made with real comfort.
Chilling out is wonderful, so be sure to keep it as an important fixture of your life.
With these simple tips, finding more time and presence in your life should help you make good on the famous quote uttered by Ferris Bueller.
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