Keeping A Positive Attitude Through Hard Times
This week I wanted to write about keeping a positive attitude through hard times. Everyone has trials and they are all so different. For me I’ve experienced abuse, divorce and health issues. Others experience financial difficulties, miscarriage, baby loss and a whole list of other experiences which can drag us down and really impact on our happiness.
I learnt early on that I can live in misery or I can make the best of every situation I face and choose to be happy. Don’t get me wrong our difficult experiences will inevitably bring heartache and pain but we can choose to bear it well, to have compassion and empathy for others facing similar situations and to make the most of life no matter what we go through.
Today I’d like to share a few tips on keeping a positive attitude no matter what.
Look for the Positive in Every Situation
Whilst we may not wish to go through certain experiences in life we can look for the positive in all situations. I can ask myself, what good has come from this terrible experience? I can create an optimistic viewpoint ask myself how the situation I’m in had made me stronger, helped me to grow or understand others better.
For example, I spent 5 years as a single mother. Whilst I never planned for my marriage to fail and found parenting on my own difficult, it did give me an opportunity to be independent, to see how strong I was. I’m now remarried and in a happy relationship however I now have understanding for others who are parenting on their own which at times can be very difficult and lonely.
Cultivate and live in a Positive Environment
I think creating a positive environment can set us up well to face the trials of life head on. After separating from my x husband, a man who had really affected my self esteem, I ensured my bedroom was a peaceful and relaxing safe haven.
I purchased new bedding, created positive quotes and placed them on the wall and accessorised the room in a way i’d feel happy and peaceful in my darkest moments. To stay positive it is important to have influences in your life that support you and lift you up instead of dragging you down.
You can start by supporting and being kind to yourself and surrounding yourself with people who support and uplift you. I had to get rid of Toxic people who were negative influences, who dragged me down and made me feel rubbish.
By Cultivating a positive environment, a peaceful space and decluttering the toxic influences from your life you can feel more happy and at peace.
Healing takes time. Pace Yourself and take things slow
Experiencing a breakup, a divorce, health issues or other trials is not going to be easy. Some things you can never fully forget. This is your life, an illness may be chronic and in your face. You may have lost a loved one you will and should never forget. Your not expected to. These things are very real in your life but you can heal and the pain of the experience lessen with time. You can overcome and choose to be happy, to face each day with a positive mindset and focus on the good things.
Of course there will be times you feel low, feel like your about to crumble, that your whole world is falling apart and sometimes you will need to take time out to simply rest, to be calm or regather yourself. That is okay, we all need time and with time you can face each day with a more positive attitude and be the strong person you are.
Sometimes It can seem like it’s the end of the world. Your going through the hardest and most difficult experience ever but you can and will get through as you take time out, look after yourself and focus on the positives in life. It may not be easy but it will be worth it.