We all find it hard to parent at times. Sure, most of the time our kids are angels. But then sometimes, they can be really hard work. And when you have a house to run as well as them to look after, life can get stressful.
However, it really doesn’t have to be this way. Because when it comes to the home, you really don’t have to be the sole person in charge of keeping it running. In fact, if you and your spouse and your kids are all living there, then why can’t they help out a lot more?
It might be time for them to start doing their own chores. But maybe you’re not sure how you’re going to actually get them to do it? Here are a few ideas for you.
Stop Doing Things For Them
The first thing that you absolutely need to do if you want to make sure that they start to help out more, is to just stop doing things for them. Just stop.
If they know you’ll make their bed or do their laundry, they won’t care to do it themselves. So don’t clean up after them, and you’ll find that they do start to do it themselves! It’s tough, but it works.
Then, you’re going to want to make sure that they are incentivised to do this. Because if they aren’t interested, they need some kind of motivation. And as you can see from Mommy Bites, there are lots of different ways that you can incentivise them to get started.
From making their pocket money contingent on chores to earning rewards or getting to make choices, there’s so much that you can use to put this in place.
Make It A Condition
You could then also make it that they absolutely have to do chores if they want to see their friends on the weekend or if they want to go to certain classes or do things they’re interested in.
This is often how it works in adulthood, so it’s great to let them know that they have to do their work before they can have fun.
Get Them Interested
But then also you’re going to want to make them a lot more interested in doing things around the home. The way to do this, can be to give them something to want to look after.
Maybe you get a fish tank, from somewhere such as Swell UK, that they need to take care of? If you decorate their room and they will want to keep it clean? Figure out their interests and go with something that they will care about?
And finally, as much as you may say over and over again that they have to clean their rooms or clear up after dinner, but then nothing happens, you need to follow through.
It’s tough and sometimes easier to just do things yourself, but that’s not teaching them anything or getting results. So do not just dive in and do it instead.
Also let them know that the consequences of their actions – either losing privileges or living in a mess, are real!
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