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Blog Better and Just be Yourself

Before I knew much about blogging, (not that I’m an expert) I simply blogged to share my experiences. After joining social media my blog exploded!

I started getting views and life has dramatically changed. I now blog full time and hope to eventually get a full time income. (That will come eventually).

Now had I been a little wiser and read up more on blogging before I started I may have learnt some things earlier that I have discovered on my journey

I don’t think learning as you go is a bad thing, in fact as a teacher we were encouraged by our University lecturers to reflect in PRAXIS. This simply meant develop and improve and critically reflect on ways to improve our teaching skills as we taught. In the every day world it’s called professional development.

Now that i’m a blogger this skill is very transferable and highly relevant. Each week I take a few minutes to reflect on what I’d like to do a little better. I write down the things I’d like to learn more about and being aware of this, I look out for ways to improve and or develop new skills as a blogger.

For example, I’m really not experienced with Instagram. Many of my blogging friends have beautiful perfect looking pictures. Mine however are simply everyday shots of our life and in no way high quality.

So I decided I wanted to improve at Instagram. Although I thought I needed to improve the quality of my pictures I soon realised this is not my “cup of tea” as the English might say. I don’t have the artistic, Instagram, photographic flare -yet!

The question I needed to ask myself was would this affect my ability to build a genuine following on Instagram? I realised the answer is No! My blog is about my life, my Daysinbed, my days out of bed. My life is not perfect! I cannot depict my life on Instagram as perfect when we are simply everyday normal people.

So I decided it’s okay to have everyday pictures on Instagram. My goal would not be to improve quality but to Instagram at least once a day, “real pictures” of our “real life”.

Those who like them will like them and those who don’t well, they can move on to the next page. It’s okay.

I also had a similar feeing when it came to my “feature images” for my blog! I attended a class at Britmums about improving photographic images. We were taught one method for adding text to a picture and you know what, I tried it and it did not work for me. It looked dumb!

Again I realised that my blog is unique because I create different pictures in different styles for every post! And again, those that like it will like it and those who want a perfect visual can again move on to another page.

So a lesson I learned after becoming a blogger is to be myself. Take photos in my way, design my way, advertise my way, create images my way.

If I tried to be perfect in an area or do what others wanted then I’d just look fake. Not to say I can’t improve and I’m sure I will with time but rather than focus on perfect images and graphics, I will focus on being me. As a blogger I am versatile and different from one day to another so that’s how I’ll continue to blog.

Blogging can be really fun but if you don’t do it in a way you enjoy, it can become a job, the fun is gone and you could be left wondering why you are blogging. I guess the lesson to be learnt here is to be true to yourself as you blog and as you improve.

Angela Milnes


  1. I love this because IT IS SO TRUE. I tend to get overwhelmed with the “have to’s” that I feel everyone proclaims. You have to post x number of days, participate in this social media, have perfect photos on EVERY post and then I no longer blog. The joy is gone. Finally, I decided …BUMP IT! I’m going to get excited and just be me. Just write. I have an entire week of posts ready to go. WHAT??

    But yes, I would love to take photography classes sometime and improve. But eh…it’s ok if it has to wait. I’m no longer going to let it keep me from blogging. šŸ™‚

    AND WHY AM I NOT FOLLOWING YOU ON INSTAGRAM. I must rectify that now! You have motivated me to post to Instagram once a day. Oh boy. I can DO this.

    Get better soon, my friend.

    1. Thanks Jessie! There are all these different things i’d love to do but with my limitations and all that is being done allready..I simply dont have time…. one day I plan to improve the Instagram a lot more and brand it a little but one thing at a time..for now it’s about having fun as well as trying to succeed.

      Angela xx

  2. I loved this post. We have only started our blog and we are currently getting to grips with everything. Sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming but you’re right, concentrate on how ‘you’ want it too look and feel. #AnythingGoes

  3. thanks. There is so much to do..for me I can only do so much and work on one social media area at a time….if i had more cash i could pay for support but i’m a one women show! lol angela xx

  4. Great post Ang. I started blogging as a complete hobby and I try to keep that in mind when my linky commenting is piling up and I am pressured to get a decent blog post written. My advice to bloggers too is not to have family and friends have access to your blog. There are a lot of things that I would love to write about my marriage and certain friendships but people read them and I don’t want to hurt feelings. I am visiting from #AnythingGoes.

    1. Thanks Trista! I agree it would be great to write about certain things but yes when everyone is reading it who knows us, it kind of limits how much we can say. However with me I don’t feel i really have that option when the blog is to raise awareness about myself and my condition as well as parenting so if i were to start from scratch id probably still tell my friends. Yet, there is a freedom in them not knowing about it!

      Angela xx

  5. I totally agree! One of the things I love about your blog is that it feels real. Your pictures show real people doing real things rather than being “posed” and I think that’s important. You are showing the real you and that’s what your readers like!

    1. Thanks Laura.

      Yes, it’s true, real life is often more genuine and different methods work for different bloggers which is why it is important for us to be ourselves.

      Angela x

  6. These are brilliant tips Angela! šŸ™‚ You should continue to be yourself because your blog is fabulous! Being real is the best way to blog. It should be an honest reflection of the person that writes it. Those are my favourite types of blogs. xx #brilliantblogposts

    1. Thanks Chloe. It’s great to hear you like my blog. thank you. It is important to be myself and be real… and i guess as time goes by i will improve and naturally get better at different aspects of blogging. šŸ™‚ A lot of it is sheer hard work! I’m also getting better and faster at responding to PR/emails etc and that feels good as it is a whole new world. Still a lot more to learn! Angela x

  7. A great post hun and I completely agree. People read our blogs to read our opinions and find out about us, not because we have the best photographs or the best Instagram account. I try hard but I’m not great at photography either, I can’t get the perfectly bright and clear photos. It’s hard. But I do my best. Blogging for me is what makes me love it. That’s why people come back. And that’s okay. xx

  8. Excellent advice – all we can be is ourselves. Everyone else is taken and, eventually, our real selves will leak though anyway. And achievable goals. Finally achievable goals! Many of the how to posts end up demotivating me completely as I don’t have the time so I end doing nothing. But one photo a day, I can probably do that. Thank you šŸ™‚ This is truly a #brilliantblogposts

  9. Fab post. Sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in all the rules, and the reality is that you need to focus on what works for you. And this post is the kick up the backside I needed to get me posting more on Instagram. #brilliantblogposts

    1. Thanks Alison. So many people have advise and rules and some work for me, some dont. I have to just experiment and see what works and go with the flow…. it will take me years to reach my goals but i’ll do it my way and do what feels right. Angela x

  10. Oh you nailed this Angela! We can only be ourselves and do our best to try to make our blogs the very best they can be. Personally I find that when I concentrate on just doing the best I can, writing the stuff I want to write and don’t pay attention to what other bloggers are doing, that is when my blog flourishes.

    Keep on, being you! x


    1. Thanks Katie. i really do enjoy writing and i’m coming to find what kind of writer i am and it’s working. I love blogging and being me is working just fine! Angela xx

  11. This is a really lovely post and it definitely makes me feel better, when like you, there are certain things I feel like I should be doing but actually, I’m not as talented as others! I think it’s about learning and loving what you do that matters! xx

    Sam // Samantha Betteridge

    1. Thanks Sam! I’m glad you found this useful! Sometimes I can feel a little down and of course it is hard when we compare ourselves to others too but if we compare ourselves against ourselves then we can see our true progress and as yo say focusing on what we love is what is the most important. – Being ourselves and learning! Angela x

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