7 Ways to Boost your Kid’s Self Confidence
Growing children tend to be pretty expressive, and usually, parents are able to detect the highs and lows of their moods very easily. Low self esteem is one of those lows, that doesn’t just affect adults, but kids too, and as a parent, there are actually some active and actionable steps you can take to help prevent and tackle that. Read on to know more about those!
Praise Effort, Not Results
This one’s the golden rule of parenting, whether or not you are trying to boost your kid’s self esteem.
Praise your kid and do that often, but make sure you’re praising him for his hard work and effort, not only when he wins and succeeds. Be specific and honest with the praise, and acknowledge his challenges.
Encourage Risk Taking
Recall that adrenaline rush and ‘on cloud 9’ feeling you last had when you did something you were super proud of?
That’s exactly what you would want your kid to experience, and that will actually help boost his self esteem too. Risk taking is healthy, even for kids.
As a parent, allow your kid to explore the unexplored and do things he’s scared of- because when he does it, it’ll help him realise how much taking chances can make him grow.
Offer Constructive Feedback
This one may sound counterintuitive, but it is true, and much needed. Teach your kid to understand and accept constructive feedback and sometimes criticism and take it in the right way.
Avoid over praising your kid at all costs. Offering too much praise is also harmful and will cause harm both ways- either spur narcissistic behaviour or get your kid to set an impossible standard of being perfect all the time.
Always let your little one know that your love for him is unconditional and does not depend on his success and achievements.
Remember to not always talk about performance, and offer your love without judgments and for his specific wins.
Foster a Growth Mindset
It is very important for parents to help their children develop a growth mindset and to encourage goal setting, even at a very early stage.
Help your little one identify his strengths and set goals to help him exercise those strengths and put them to use.
Let Him Choose
Allowing your kid to make a choice is one of the most important values you can teach him, and a lot of parents tend to deprive their child of this one, thinking that they may make the wrong choices.
Doing this for a long time can actually cripple your child’s ability to make decisions for himself, and he’ll never be able to trust his own instincts.
Encourage Realistic Goal Setting
Push your kid to set goals, and make sure he’s setting realistic goals. Push him towards working hard to achieve those goals, and be there for him when he’s stuck.
Eventually, even those small little wins will contribute to his enthusiasm and will give his self esteem the boost it needs.
Even if he fails, remind your kid that everything is a learning experience and it is okay to not win all the time.